Why is it that when you call white people out on their bullshit after a while they continue to do it? Shit gets exhausting! I hate living in a predominantly white (there’s like two PoC plus me) area.
- Do not forget Michael Brown
- Do not forget how the media dehumanized him and tried to justify his murder
- Do not forget how peaceful protests were painted as savage riots
- Do not forget police armed with military grade weapons terrorized and arrested black civilians
- Do not forget Darren Wilson being awarded over $200,000 in fundraiser donations for murdering an unarmed black child
- Do not forget that this system was not built to defend us, but to control us
- Do not forget Ferguson
**i posted this on my blog a few days ago, but i thought it was important to share on this platform, given the recent comments about feeling guilty for not maintaining the “strong black woman” role 24/7. i want every black girl to know that their anger, sadness, and pain are all valid.**
i was knee deep in a very heartfelt blog post about the numerous women of color on my campus who are single, when i got around to the idea of "racial preferences". i decided to look up the definition of "preference" and i got some profound insight in the true vileness that is "racial preference".
preference: noun the state of preferring
prefer: verb to set or hold before or above other people or things in estimation; like better; choose rather than
to have a racial preference is to actually hold one race above another. further, there is no actual evidence proving that that person of that particular race could do more or less for you as a romantic partner, but you just assume that a person of a specific race would be better suited for you.
the problem with this is, if you’re a person of color claiming that you only date people of non-color simply because of "racial preference", you’re actually claiming that you’d rather date a white person than a person of color because you assume that the white race (or any other race of non-color) is better.
what you use to assume or estimate that white is better is even more problematic: the default belief that white is always right and best, and anything else is inherently tainted and beneath or behind.
i think we could all use some time to reflect.
what’s stopping you from acting on the potential you see in a possible dating partner? color?
i don’t say all this to preach the “color-blind” nonsense, but to put dating in a different perspective.
you can’t separate people from their color because no doubt much of their person is directly shaped from color and identifies with their color. you can’t divorce the two without taking away the very person his/her/themselves.
but dating is simply taking a chance on and spending time with someone who you believe shares your interests, beliefs, and vision. color should never be the hindering factor.
please stop using the "racial preference" defense to justify your choice to shut out people of color . it’s just another hit to people of color wholly, women of color especially, and black women crucially